I just wanted to jump on here and talk about the balancing act that parents conduct daily. I honestly have no idea whether Grant and I are succeeding at this or not however in my opinion we seem to be doing okay. Have you ever thought to yourself, “How do other parents do it?”, yep! Me too!
I honestly wish I didn’t ask myself that question because when I sit down with my coffee and look at my life, our life together over the last four years, we have achieved so much together. Everyone could always do more or have done more earlier in life or in a relationship but if we do that then we are constantly putting pressure on ourselves and expecting way too much of each other. Whilst I was working full time, I found it really difficult to try and find the balance of work, home, being a mother, being a wife and most importantly being an individual person with wants and needs.
Soon after my daughter was born I felt that I had finally found myself but in all honesty when I look back now, I lost myself. I get emotional now thinking about it because even though I do not regret anything, I do know that I spent way too much time trying too hard to have everything be smooth running and perfect. The opinion that others have of me was overwhelming me to a point where I was trying so hard almost to a fault. In the last 2 weeks I have sat and reflected over the decisions my husband and I have made in the last 2 months. We took a few steps backwards before Christmas unfortunately and I think it had a lot to do with stress. Then over Christmas we took a holiday and went back to basics and relaxed as best we could. We realised that what we were trying to achieve was simple. Balance.
We don’t want to spend the rest of our lives, working too hard for nothing or never spending quality time with each other as a family and as a couple. Even spending quality time with the ones we love and care about, and who are closest to us. Quantity is not what we want in life but Quality. Doesn’t everyone? The funny thing is, it is so simple and sometimes we all just get so caught up in trying so hard to balance everything while simultaneously trying to obtain everything early or as quickly as possible. I’ve heard that working harder will get you what you want, no. Working smarter not harder is what will help you to obtain balance and quality.
I look forward to the end of February, this is where one decision could assist in Grant and myself obtaining a form of balance that we haven’t experienced in a long time.